Hi, I’m Chloe. If you’re reading this then I’m guessing there’s something you want to change in your life. Perhaps something you’ve tried to change, but it just doesn’t happen. Maybe your attempts get squashed, or you’re thrown off track by life happening, or you think you don’t have the self-belief to make it happen, or maybe life just seems so busy and all-consuming that your dreams and goals for the future always end up at the bottom of the pile and seem un-doable?
I hear you. I’ve been there – and still can be there sometimes! Which is why I say Progress not Perfection, because we are always trying to juggle and balance and get the things we want out of life. But if we try to do it all at once, or wait until things are perfect, it just doesn’t happen. We get overwhelmed and throw everything up in the air and say we “can’t do it”.
I am a trained and award-winning Life Coach, which gives me the technical tools and ability to Coach, motivate and inspire my clients. However, I believe my real-life skills and experiences in my own life are what allow me to build the really deep, trusting relationships with my clients, and actually understand what they are grappling with. I walk my talk, so to speak, and a lot of the tools and techniques I use with clients are also put into practise in my own life.
Let me fill you in a bit. Right now I live with my big combined family of 7 in Berkshire, and I have the pleasure of doing what I do for “work” – it never feels like work!! As you can imagine, running a business, looking after the house, ferrying around 5 kids and enjoying quite a busy social life, time for myself and trips away with my husband, is quite some juggling act. That’s why I keep an eye on balancing things, remember to look after myself as much as possible and stay organised to help me stay calm.
Before I finally built up enough confidence to get out there and grow this business that I love, I had 2 different day jobs. I told myself I needed to have a regular income, and because building a business as well seemed way too much for me to manage, I kept stopping and starting in the little smidge of time I could find.
The jobs came as a result of my divorce from my first marriage, and then when there were 5 combined kids to look after half the time, it seemed I was stuck with the jobs and a severe lack of time.
So, I finally got to the point back in 2016 where I knew my story of “not having enough time or confidence” was severely holding me back. And I was sad that I was working away at a job I didn’t enjoy, whilst feeling envious of women I admired who were doing the kind of thing I dreamed of doing.
I know it’s hard. But I know it’s do-able. And I want to help as many women as I can to create the life they really want and deserve.
Life is about seeking progress, not perfection. I know that by adopting one new habit, by repeating it day after day until it sticks, you will make progress. Some people can tackle larger changes, others can’t, and that’s just fine. Let me ask you the questions that help you find your way and get excited about the future.
Back in April 2017, I was working away at my business, feeling somewhat lonely, and wondering who on earth to talk to about what I do, how to get my message out, how to learn how to do the stuff I had no clue about…the list goes on.
I had put myself off Networking events because the ones I had been to left me feeling flat, and lacking confidence because I felt under pressure to “sell myself” and what I did. I thought the aim was to find clients, and the energy of many groups felt flat and didn’t really have a vibe that lifted me up.
When I found The Business Girls on-line, I lurked in the shadows for a while, feeling too nervous to join in. Now, I’m a fairly confident person, I’m lively and enjoy meeting people – so it was hard to be feeling so stuck and holding back. Eventually I bit the bullet and booked to go along to a Business Girls meet up – it was AMAZING!! Lively, high-energy, informative – best of all, I met some fantastic women, who were super friendly and supportive.
Long story short, I fully embraced the group and have reaped the benefits. I no longer feel lonely, I feel like I have a team of women supporting me and encouraging me in my efforts with my business. In fact, I love it so much that I am now the Henley & Marlow Ambassador running my own groups every month and bringing local business women together!
I know some of you reading this will be working away on your own local businesses, and I wanted to let you know that this support is out there. Every third Wednesday of the month I hold a meet-up at Marlow Rowing Club at 9.30-11.30am! If you’ve been hiding in the shadows, or not knowing how to get out there and feel supported, or let people know what you do, please come along!! I’m on a mission to draw out those nervous networkers and show them how much can be gained by braving that area outside your comfort zone.